Abstainers vs. Moderators

March 21, 2017

I hope you guys have been having a wonderful week so far. Right now the boys (by the boys I mean my guy and his brother) are full on into calving season. This means that there is a lot of baby animals running around and it is friggen ADORABLE. Does anyone else get completely fascinated when it comes to birth? Like, your body is creating a living being… WTF. Blaize thinks the baby cows are just the cutest, and they really are. 

The only thing I don’t like about calving is the cold, shitty weather and not seeing Tyler as much. He really is the peanut butter to my jelly……Ok. I need to stop. 

Anyways, you guys know I’m all about sharing information with you when I find it really f*cking helpful. Let me tell you, THIS is helpful. 

Have you ever wondered if you were an abstainer or a moderator? My guess is probably not because how the hell would you even know what that means. Let me give you a little background information on these two things first. 

Knowing I tend to rebel against any type of expectation put on me, I have always been so curious why it has been easy for me to cut certain foods out. For example, I cut out gluten all together and I find it a lot easier to just do that than to have it “once in awhile”. I obviously still have the odd dessert, but it is never my intention to have it. 

Here’s the thing. I find it a whole lot easier to just cut things out all together than to have them once in awhile. To be honest, I’m an all or nothing kind of girl. If I’m having some chocolate, I’m have 3 bars. If I’m eating a slice of glutenous pizza, I might as well eat 5… or at least that’s what goes on in my brain.

Look, I don’t want you to get trapped into thinking that moderation is always key when your trying to “quit” something or “cut back” on something. Moderation only works for some people, not all people. As an abstainer, If you’ve ever tried a new meal plan where they allow 3 desserts a week you’ll come to find how challenging it is for you. As a moderator, that is absolutely perfect for you since you don’t like the feeling of never being able to have something again.

I am ALL about getting to know yourself better. It is key in creating change and implementing new habits into your life! So here is a question I want you to ask yourself…

When you think about not being able to eat your favorite dessert ever again, do you feel panicky?

Here’s another one.

Is it easier for you to go cold turkey on something than it is so have it “once in awhile”?

If you answered yes to both questions, chances are you are an abstainer. 

Abstainers are people who have trouble stopping something once they’ve started. They are also not that tempted at something when they can’t have it. 

If you answered no to both questions, chances are you are a moderator.

Moderators are people who feel panicked when they know they can’t have something. They also find that occasional indulgences make everything easier & much more pleasurable than abstaining from it all together.



You might be wondering why this is helpful, but COME ON! This is an amazing thing to know about yourself. What is interesting is you can be an abstainer in some situations and a moderator in others. This is actually really simple to figure out, just start asking yourself the right questions! 

There is a huge possibility that you might be an abstainer when it comes to food but a moderator when it comes to alcohol. Identify each situation as an individual circumstance and figure out what will work best for you. You will be able to go a lot farther knowing this about yourself and how you react to certain situations!

The key thing to remember here is that there is no right way to doing things. People might think that there way is the ONLY way, but it’s all bullshit. I absolutely hate generic, cookie cutter “plans” of any kind because each of you reading this are different. You have your own experience, your own lives and your own personalities. Find out your right way of doing something, and do it. 

Are you curious as to what you are or still a little unclear? Check out this page to read more about it. 


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