I will be the first to admit that staying positive is one of the hardest things I have ever learnt to do. You might be thinking, “well, it’s not that hard” but I call bullshit. It is hard, and it’s okay that it’s hard.
Anyone who strives to be more positive has a leg up on everyone else already because at least you’re trying. If you are NOT one of those people who tries to see the glass half full, you need to hear this.
You can not honestly expect to live a happy life with such a shitty attitude. It’s just a fact! Like attracts like. Whatever energy level you’re projecting into the world is exactly what you’re going to get back. Being positive doesn’t mean you’re accepting your circumstance, it means you’re seeking a better circumstance!
If you can’t tell, I am having a shitty day. I’m not sure about you, but when I’m having a shitty day or something annoying happens it is SO hard for me to act like everything is fine. (I think that’s my rebel tendency coming out)
Here is what I do to try and turn the day around. These simple little things have honestly helped me let go of any baggage or things holding me back from being happy so listen up!
Put Your Ego in Check
Knowing the difference between your intuition & your ego is a huge feat. I will write a post on this later on but I want to give you a quick run down on the difference between the two.
This is the voice in your head that is most likely dominant. It tells you when you are being “threatened” and it often seems to be the voice that makes you justify why YOU are the victim and why YOU should defend yourself.
The ego is simply there to “protect” itself and you. The problem with this is that it wants to keep you playing small. Anything outside of your comfort zone triggers the ego to come in and tell you why you CAN’T do something.
Our intuition is our TRUE inner being that acts not out of fear, but out of peace and love. This sounds super cheesy but it’s true. Ever hear someone tell you that you have all the answers within yourself? They are referring to your intuition.
Lots of people speculate over the intuition being your “spirit guide” or other “woo-woo” things, but I think everyone has the ability to access their intuition and start to be guided by it. Any decision that is made by your true self should feel peaceful and calm. If you feel fear, anxiety or adrenaline then your ego is still running the show.
So getting back to my point. When you are going through a stressful time or life just doesn’t seem to be going your way, start quieting all of the noise your ego is making and listening to your intuition.
Some of the things I will do in the heat of the moment is tell me ego to shove it, and I take a deep breath. I tell myself that I know my intuition will never steer me wrong and as long as I show up in a positive headspace, the universe will give back to me what I put out.
This brings me to my next thing…
Have an Emergency Mantra
Ok so a mantra is something you constantly tell yourself. It can mean other stuff, but to me that is what it means. When shit gets tough, I want you to come up with something you can tell yourself so you calm down and put things into perspective.
Since I have a huge ego, my personal mantra revolves around that. Somehow telling myself that ‘the more I take a step back and calm down, the better things will work out’, the better I feel when I start to be negative.
Your personal mantra should be something that makes you feel peaceful. It could be something as simple as reminding yourself that things will always work out.
On the other hand, you could have a whole paragraph of things saved on your phone. Get to know yourself, and figure out what will make you stay positive.
Put Things Into Perspective
Sometimes we feel a little entitled. Entitled about the fact that we never think bad things should happen to us and we deserve to have an amazingly beautiful life ALL the time.
This is not true. Life is hard and to be living in this era is a blessing in itself. Start to put things into perspective for yourself when you start to feel down.
In my opinion, this is actually really hard to do for people who grew up without many hardships. If you are one of those people, it’s time to start putting yourself in other peoples shoes. Really think about the blessings you have and count them…with intention.
This will not only bring back positive energy but make you grateful for everything you have. Being grateful is the key to all happiness, so it might be worth trying!
Stop Trying to Manipulate Outcomes
Sometimes we have to learn to accept the hard things in life and learn from them. Here’s a secret for all of the control freaks out there…
You don’t have to control everything!
Seriously. Being controlling means your letting your ego run the show ALL the time. How exhausting. Instead, why don’t you try letting go a little bit and reap the benefits of trusting things will work out.
Here is an important lesson that changed my life: Trying to manipulate outcomes is selfish. All you will do is create anxiety and stress for yourself as well as lose control (because no one can control everything). This makes its extremely hard to stay in a positive headspace.
Whenever you find yourself needing to control situations, recognize that this is your ego running the show and you choose different. Take a step back, swallow your pride and learn to let go. You WILL reap the benefits of having things just “work out”.
Make An Intention
We made it! This is the final tip that I have to stay positive when shit gets tough. Ready? Ok…
Make it your intention to be more positive! Duh.
What I mean when I say “intention” is simple. Live everyday with the intention of being a more positive person in all aspects of your life. If you tell yourself that this is your intention, you will become more self-aware as time goes on.
Once you’re more self-aware, you can “self-check” a lot more. Maybe you didn’t realize you gossiped so much or maybe you didn’t think you were such a Debbie Downer. Whatever it is, you’ll start to recognize it and fix it.
If I am ever setting intentions, I tell them to myself every morning so they’re on my brain all day. This leaves little room for excuses!
There you have it guys! I hope you decide to implement these things in your everyday life because they will help you. If you’re struggling or you have questions please reach out and contact me or book a free call to chat more here.