Fear is funny. Not in a “haha” sense but in a “f*ck this is stupid” sense, if that’s even a thing.
In my opinion, 99.99% of people stop themselves from being who they really are and reaching their full potential because of fear. If you really think about this, it’s sad.
Have you stopped yourself from doing something because of the fear of what other people would think?
Have you ever stayed in your comfort zone because the unknown was way to f*cking scary and you couldn’t handle that thought?
If you answered yes to both questions, then I’m glad you’re here because you need to here this.
“The number one regret the elderly have when they look back on there lives is that they didn’t do what they wanted to do or be who they wanted to be.” – unknown
If the above quote is even remotely true (which I think it is), then we’re doing something wrong.
There comes a point in life where you have to decide which one is going to run your life and your decisions… you or your fear. I’m not saying try and “get rid” of fear because it will always be there. You just need to get to the point where you are comfortable with fear in the passenger seat… more on that below.
I came up with 4 golden rules that I thought would be really helpful for those of you who are constantly stuck in your comfort zones. What you don’t realize is that YOU are the only thing that is holding you back. Beyond fear, you are completely limitless in your potential, your experience and your success.
Rule #1: Accept fear as your passenger, not the driver
It’s okay to have worries! It’s even okay to panic a little bit from time to time. We are human, and that’s NORMAL. The goal here is to get to the point where you accept that fear is right there, and you move on. Simple as that. Don’t let it drive your decisions because YOU, my friend, are the driver.
Rule #2: Don’t try and throw fear out of the car
This is a tricky one. The root of so many peoples anxiety is the fact that they try to get rid of fear all together. This is a problem for 1 of 2 reasons.
Reason #1: You can not get rid of fear, it is in our instinctive DNA as a survival tactic to keep us safe. Embrace that shit and decide for yourself if something is safe or not.
Reason #2: The more you try to get rid of it, the more it comes flooding back full force.
Stop trying to throw it out of the car. Again, acceptance is key here. Accept and surrender, and you will be okay.
Rule #3: Use fear as a navigation system
Your fear is there to guide you. It will guide you to what it thinks is the “safest”, most comfortable option. In today’s day and age, there are so many new things that are unknown. New opportunities, new ways of living and new ways of doing things will all trigger new alarms in your brain because they are WAY out of your comfort zone.
The feeling of being scared and uncomfortable will tell you one of two things:
- You are in immediate danger or facing a life threatening situation
- You are simply getting pushed out of your comfort zone and you must choose whether to face it and grow as a person or let yourself be scared and stay the same
Your fear is telling you something. Unless your life is threatened, chances are your fear is challenging you to push through it and expand your upper limit.
Rule #4: Don’t let other people’s fear influence you
Don’t be held back by people who have closed minds. Those people usually live a very “safe” and guarded life. There is nothing wrong with living that way however if you never challenge your comfort zone you will start to be controlled by it in a sense.
Surround yourself with people who challenge themselves. The people who seem “fearless” and inspiring are the people who you should want to surround yourself with as much as possible.
If you follow these 4 rules, you will start to grow. Not only that, but you will do things in your life that you never thought possible.
If you are desperately trying to break through your glass ceiling and finally become liberated by your choices instead of defined by them, head over to my “Work With Me” page or book a free clarity call here. I want to help you feel exhilarated, free and completely in love with your body, your mind and your life… doesn’t that sound nice?