Success is something we all strive so hard towards. We all want so badly to be successful, but most of us we don’t even know what success means. Think about it. If you don’t know what your definition of success is, how will you ever know when you are truly successful? You will keep running around in circles playing the chasing game, and never enjoying the journey you’re on.
Then there’s failure. What does it mean to fail to you? What is your rock bottom? If you hit rock bottom does it actually mean you failed or did you just learn a lesson and move on?
In order to understand success, we must understand why we “fail”. In my opinion, you can not fail until you give up. So let’s say that we must understand why we give up. What is really stopping us from succeeding in losing weight? Why can’t we manage to build our dream business? What is blocking us from persevering through the hard times and achieving success?
Here a few examples of things I have “failed” at:
I committed to doing a 12 week training program. This included buying new runners, paying for the program and scheduling in every single workout 3 months in advance. I held myself accountable and did the program for a week, then found myself completely resisting the process and gave up.
I then worked with a fitness network marketing company, and loved the programs. After a couple months I figured out that there products really hurt my stomach, and quit.
Next up I enrolled in a health coaching program, and 30 days in got my full refund back and dropped out of the program.
One thing that all of these examples have in common is that I was completely excited about them. I did my research, planned out everything in advance, strived for perfection & eventually felt burnt out and quit. Pretty weird hey? One thing I always neglected to figure out was why?
On the other hand…
I started meditating and have committed to it everyday for the last 3 months without wavering.
I enrolled in a Health & Wellness Coaching Program and am 4 modules away from finishing.
I restarted that 12 week program and now am on week 4, and won’t stop until I’m done.
What is the difference between now and then?
I now know myself a hell of a lot better.
How was I supposed to know back then that writing things on my schedule actually made me resist doing that very thing?
How would I have recognized that expectations make me anxious and it’s in my nature to resist them?
I did not realize that my successes came from me choosing to do that thing day by day, and not planning it out and putting pressure on myself to actually do the thing I thought I wanted to do.
Universal Lesson: Get to know yourself before you set a big goal for yourself.
This is the key to easily succeeding in things you want to succeed in. Ask yourself these questions:
- Am I a morning person or a night person?
- At what time of day am I most productive?
- Do I resist all expectation or do I thrive on it?
- What is my end goal?
- What do I want my life to look like?
- Do I need accountability, or do I need to do it on my own?
- Do I thrive when I have a schedule?
- Does it feel good to cross things off my to-do list?
- How do I perform under pressure?
- How easily do I form habits?
- Am I the type of person who works well with others?
Start getting to know who you are and how you react to new circumstances.
Success isn’t about fitting a mold. No one can give you a personal formula that is individualized to YOU and YOUR experience. You don’t have to do things like other people just because they look more productive or happy. Pave your own path in your journey with achieving your goals. Do things that make you feel good.
For example: If you have a fitness plan that you want to follow and it requires that you go to the gym 3 times a week, don’t go at 5 am just because some magazine article told you to. Go at a time in which commitment won’t be a problem for you. Make things easier for yourself, and trust your gut. What do you want success to look like, and how do you want to get there.
This is the only thing you need to know about succeeding. Get to know yourself, become aware of how you react to things and ask yourself these hard questions. The only way you will succeed is if you play to your strengths, not challenge your weaknesses.